Archive for Love
looking for love in all the wrong places?
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What’s love got to do with…money, relationships, health, your experience of life? Everything. Anything or anyone who feels unloved isn’t presenting in the world in a nice way. In fact, evil is simply the absence of love. Illness is the absence of Love. Poverty is the absence of love. Why? Because Love is Source Energy, the Fullness of all that is Good, which is the True Self of all of us.
We all have “stories” about our lives. My folks didn’t love me; my spouse abused me; my family didn’t do this or that…and we carry these stories around like badges, recreating them over and over again…living the same experiences over and over again with different faces; but it’s the same old story. I didn’t get enough Love. In every act of everyday we are trying to “get” more Love. What’s weird about that is that we ARE Love and the place where we aren’t getting enough love is from our Self. We are Love; yet, we don’t know it; we don’t realize it, therefore we don’t have the EXPERIENCE OF IT, because we keep playing the same old tunes repeatedly searching for Love in all the wrong places: out there when it’s in here.
There is nothing you cannot let go of if you know how to “drop it”. You want a better relationship here and now, stop telling the story of how “unloved” you were as a kid. You want more Quality Life experiences right here and now; then stop telling the stories of your miserable low quality experiences back when. It’s history. It’s long gone. It was never Real; merely real.
Most of all, start loving yourself. Gather together all those unloved parts of you and bring them into your fold. They are like long lost children waiting to be heard, loved and honored in your inner world. When your mind is racing negative thoughts of doom and gloom, it’s those unloved, unrecognized and abandoned parts of you that are clamoring to be LOVED. And here’s the really Good News: once you love them, their stories dissolve. There is nothing on Earth that more Love won’t fix or cure. Nothing. For Love is the stuff, the glue, the common denominator of us all.
Love yourself first; then watch everything in your personal experience change.
Applied Spirituality offers a self-study audio course that will guide you back home to yourSelf where Love is right here, right now; it’s called You Are Enough...and you already Are.
Enjoy the song, Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places and imagine that the song is about you finding You.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
silencing the human mind
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My human mind awoke this morning wanting to drag me into its “story”. What story? My son deploys today, that story. Yammering on, I could feel myself getting dragged down into its negative thoughts. Whoa! It occurred to me that I had several choices here. I could continue letting my human mind drag me from pillar to post feeling worse by the second; I could stop it; I could watch it; I could welcome it; I could release it. I didn’t have to suffer. I had choices.
Well, whatever I chose, it wasn’t going to be feeling bad to worse. I began breathing in to the count of 3 and out to the count of 5 getting a good rhythmic rolling breath going, focusing on my breathe. Poor human mind can only focus on one thing at a time; and I was not about to be the victim to the “tail” wagging the “dog”. Then I decided to “welcome in” these worrisome thoughts, continuing my rhythmic breathing.
“Welcome worry, welcome fear, welcome sadness, welcome longing to be there. Come in for you are welcome here.” Breathing. Breathing.
“Welcome the belief that I need to change, alter, amend, conceal, edit or diminish you in anyway. Welcome.”
“Welcome the notion that these feelings and thoughts are personal to me. Welcome the idea that I alone, little me, i am alone in this feeling; it is mine. Welcome. Welcome.” Breathing. Breathing.
“So, could you let this go?” I asked myself. Breathing. Breathing. Yes.
“So, would you be willing to let this go?” Breathing. Breathing. Yes.
“When might this be?”
“Now.” Breathing. Breathing.
“Now could you welcome in the IMPERSONAL nature of these thoughts and ideas?” Breathing. Breathing.
“Yes.”
“And what is present right here, right now? Is there a separate you that is suffering from these thoughts?”
Breathing. Breathing. “No.”
“So then, what is present right here, right now?”
“Only Awareness. Life. Well Being. Awareness is breathing me. Life is.” Breathing. Breathing.
“How does that feel now?”
“Spacious. Limitless. Oneness. Well. All is Well.”
Thanks for reading!
Kath
conscious parenting
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There are as many ideas of good parenting out there as there are individuals. Just ask anyone and a rousing if not noisy discussion will ensue with everyone defending their view point from the human mind. Recently quite a polarizing discussion ensued with Amy Chua’s book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. The book is not a user’s manual, but rather a personal reflection of her journey on her parenting style from which she learns and grows in Love. This is conscious parenting which results in the evolution and expansion of you, the parent. What this means is that as things come up you, the parent, have to grow yourself through the course of parenting. Children, because we love them so much, cause us to self reflect, reconsider, change and grow. Nothing else in the world can make us do this quite like our children can and do.
We want so much to be good parents; however, there’s no manual and it seems almost anyyone can do it. There’s very little barrier to entry! This is the field of Love. It gets muddy, however, when we bring to bear our human mind stuff onto the field. Our parents did it this way; or I hated that my parents did it that way; or I’m not enough, deserving or up to the job. These are the stories of human mind (ego) that will come up for OUR clearing throughout the course of parenting our children.
Bottomline: these children are NOT our property, nor are they made in our image. They are individual, unique chips off the old Block, Source Energy. They come complete with their own Internal Guidance System. Their agenda is not our agenda. Our job, if we are consciously parenting, is to keep reconnecting them with their own Internal Guidance so that they feel safe and good in their own hands. During childhood we can offer them a wide berth to practice listening within and then feeling the outcome of their individual choices. Then, once they’re “out in the world”, it will be their natural habit to “check within” first to see how anything feels to them before they act. This builds not only self esteem but self reliance, independent thinkers and adults who are Connected with Self.
I thought you might enjoy listening to Amy Chou being interviewed. It doesn’t matter that she’s Chinese; substitute any other descriptor you like here. Everyone is called to grow and expand in Love: and nothing does it better than our children.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
valentine’s day is everyday
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Chelsea Garden, Solana Beach, CA
It was Valentine’s Day 1984. My Restaurant, Chelsea Garden, had just been reviewed by the local rag, The Reader, with rave reviews from Eleanor Widmer who regularly closed a restaurant a week with her acerbic comments. The Review came just in the nick of time. Having been open since December, we were only doing single digit dinners each night. Suddenly, we were famous on Valentine’s Day.
I was out running around trying to prepare for an onslaught of customers. When I returned, my Manager told me that someone had been by to meet me. I couldn’t imagine who or why. She said he wanted to meet the person who had finally won a great review from the Wicked Witch. He was a local restauranteur and club owner who invited us to come be his guests that evening after we closed. I passed it off turning my focus back to the business at hand. We were going to be very busy that evening; and, thank God, we were saved.
That evening after we closed, Manager and I went over to the Restauranteur’s Club as invited. It was very late, perhaps 12:30 am. There was a line at the door to get it. Standing there with a grin from ear to ear was a man whom I’d never seen before. As I approached, he asked me, “Can I help you?” I nodded, “I’m looking for Woody.” He grinned back saying, “You just found him.” In that nanosecond I felt as though I had already met him. I knew him, but of course, I didn’t. We stood staring at each other in the space of infinity both of us trying to fathom this irrefutable Connection. I looked at his face, seeing it for the first time; feeling his Spirit, I knew I’d known him for Eternity.
It was a love affair that has lasted for lifetimes. Woody passed away in 1997; but since then I’ve learned the absolute Eternality of Love. Love never dies and neither do we. At the time of Woody’s physical death, I was dismayed. Why did something so wonderful need to end? Yet over the years I have come to know that in Truth, Love never dies. It is a living breathing Entity that is Eternal leaving you free to Love over and over and over because you are so full. It is the unconditional Wind Beneath My Wings.
I wish this experience for everyone. Valentine’s Day is everyday.
Thanks for reading
Kath
children: what they teach us
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Children are our teachers if we’re disposed to pay attention and stop trying to turn them into us. They are clear transparencies of Life Force, allowing It to flow through them unedited and unobstructed. That’s why they’re so joyful and innocent, they don’t have a bunch of junk in their human minds bending or distorting Life Force.
Watch and get a glimpse of where we need to go as adults: lose the human mind and regain our Divine Mind of joy. This is the natural process of Applied Spirituality
And here’s a grown up that gets it
You have your assignment: go forth, be silly, express the Joy that you are.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
self esteem: the measure of love and respect for yourself
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We are told to “Love yourself!” I know when I first heard this I was kind of confused. Didn’t everyone just automatically love oneself? Evidently not. Seems we carry the baggage of others’ opinions around…often unknowingly. The only way we know this is when the confidence that is required to do something just isn’t there. Being “shy” is one manifestation. Other examples might be someone who is overly boastful using a false bravado to compensate for a lack of confidence. And there’s more, of course. You don’t want to get into your bathing suit and play at the beach; or you won’t stand up for yourself when required; or there’s a voice in the back of your mind constantly saying, “you’re not enough…smart enough, pretty enough, educated enough, rich enough, etc.
When we don’t appreciate who we are, value our worth or appreciate our uniqueness, the tragedy is a life unfulfilled and a world that goes without our unique gifts and talents, because we don’t have the ability to bring them to the world. We live small. We hide. We never seem to get what we want.
Having the requisite love and appreciation for oneself results in a fulfilled life. We don’t “take” from others, we stand in who we are radiating our beautiful Self out to the world, and by Law of Attraction we are matched with the lovely things we deserve. It’s not aggression; it’s magnetism like a Light House standing firm and steady on the shore so that all the boats can easily and clearly find it. The ability to shine clearly is self esteem.
We are so much more than we think we are! At the core, we are Source Energy having a physical experience. In human terms we are gorgeous just as we are, despite what your human mind has to say on the subject. Each of us is a chip off the same Old Block, and have the same core of Source Energy, Well Being.
This is the time in the course of human history when we are awakening to Who We Really Are. Isn’t it time you stopped resisting and let go of the false ideas your human mind would have you believe about you? What’s stopping you? Do you think the process has to be painful or scary? It doesn’t. Do you think this is going to take a long time and divert you from your “real life”. It doesn’t have to. Do you feel lost and don’t know where to begin? Well, start here. It’s a fun journey and when guided by someone who’s been there, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. It’s a natural process of … letting go.
Join us in a workshop this evening, February 9, 2011 and then a 4 week seminar in Falling in Love with Yourself: You are Enough. You can only benefit, there is absolutely no downside to this; and the benefits are infinite.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
essential Self: Conscious Awareness
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At the root of every personal dilemma is the belief that we are isolated, alone, ineffectual and small. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are, each of us, Well Being, Perfection, Conscious Awareness. The Life that breathes us, enlivens us and every living thing. We are immense, but have suffered from the false belief in our separation from Source.
Jesus said, “I and my Father are One.” This was his statement of his realization of Oneness. We are each the same; one with the I AM.
“I AM is the Way, the Truth and the Life.”
The I AM is the Sea of Conscious Awareness in which we live, breathe and ARE. Notice. Who breathes you? What knows how to turn your food into new cells? What keeps the planets in their orbits? What? The same Conscious Awareness that is us; that is Who We Really Are.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said it this way: Trust Thyself; It is the I AM.
Thanks for reading,
Kath
i have a dream
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Today we celebrate Dr. Martin Luther King - his life, his success, his contribution to America because of his idealism. We are all better because he lived in pursuit of his dream: brotherly Love, Divine Love lived on Earth. If you’ve never heard his speech, I offer it to you here. Let it speak to your heart where Divine Love lives in each of us.
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Thanks for reading!
Kath
a new year gift for you
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God in Everything in the World; yourSelf in Everything in your life
I’m thinking that by now we’re all pretty sick of pessimism, the recession, media hype, and fear…yes? I know that we can all do better in our daily endeavors if we feel Good, positive, optimistic. Everything goes better when we have the basic belief that we are supported in some larger Well Being and can tap into it at will.
To this end, I am offering everyone and anyone a Month of Sundays with Conversations with Kath: Living the Consciousness of Well Being Everyday. Your free gift begins on Sunday Evening, January 1, 2011 at 6pm EST. All you need is a phone with long distance capabilities and the willingness to listen, let go of limiting ideas, expand your thinking and allow for infinite possibilities.
You can expect some teaching, some coaching, some techniques to practically apply in your daily life. You will also find a community of supportive people all in the same place – a desire for more and better for yourself and for the world.
I love this nation, this world, this Universe; and I know we can all be better, live well and enjoy this Life we have.
Please take me up on this offer and join us for Month of Sundays. Sunday, January 2, 2011 6pm EST. You must register so I have enough lines on the call. See you Sunday!
Thanks for reading!
Kath
