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11.11.11
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The day has arrived – a day every Light Being has long awaited on Earth; indeed every suffering heart has yearned and longed for. The 11:11.11 portal of Source Energy has opened onto planet earth making higher frequencies of Light and Love now available to each of us. Now though the processes of time, space and evolution we are able to remember that we are beings of Light and Love in a human format on Earth.
1st Corinthians 13 speaks of this this time to come on Earth. It has come today. I have rephrased it to assist you in understanding that then was then; but Now is Now.
1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not Love, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, Mt. 17.20 ; 21.21 · Mk. 11.23 and have not Love, I am nothing.
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not Love, it profiteth me nothing.
4 ¶ Love suffereth long, and is kind; Love envieth not; Love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 ¶ Love never faileth: but whether there were prophecies, they shall fail; whether there were tongues,
they shall cease; whether there was knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 For we have known only in part, and we have prophesied in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come (11:11:11), then that which is in part is now done away.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but now I become Man, I put away childish things.
12 For then we could only see through a glass, darkly, but now we can see face to face:
then I could only know in part; but now shall I know even as also I am known.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, Love, these three; but the greatest of these is Love.
This is the most sacred and blessed day for all of mankind. The Energies of Oneness with Source are now
available to every man, woman and child as together with Earth we ascend into the Consciousness of Oneness
with each other and God to create and live Heaven on Earth.
Rejoice and be exceedingly glad. Remember who you Are…Source Energy Itself on a joyous
adventure into Oneness. No longer do you have to die in order to live in Well Being; heaven is now
available right here, right now in the physical body by raising your human consciousness to reach the Mind
of God. Hallelujah!
finding community: you don’t have to be alone
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I was watching the movie, The Beaver, with Mel Gibson and Jodi Foster. If you haven’t seen it, do. This is not going to be a film review. It was simply the catalyst for my epiphany…which didn’t come until the very last part of the movie with the phrase, “You don’t have to be alone.”
This was a big one for me. All too often we think we have to be alone whilst we do this “spiritual” work and inner growth.
After the movie, I went for a walk under the night skies with all the stars twinkling at me whilst I pondered this, because I could FEEL its importance to me. I thought about how we, as humanoids, are conditioned as we grow up. We are told to leave the best parts of us at home. Don’t be too exuberant. Don’t shine too brightly. Be who we want you to be; not who you are….you get the drift. Well after enough of this, we either distance ourselves from others (physically) or we put a big armor around our hearts so they can’t hurt us anymore. Most likely we do both. This is how the ego mind endeavors to ‘protect’ us; and this is the very stuff that we have to dismantle as we choose to awaken and become more fully ourSelf. This is the ordinary heroes journey stuff.
I personally distanced myself from the rest of humanity. I moved into the back country up in the mountains where I could feel unmolested by the world. Not a bad move nor a wrong move, just what I did. However, I took it to the extreme. I moved even further away from ‘the things of man’ until one night in Nye, Montana I realized that I could turn 360 degrees and not see one light…and more significantly, I felt excruciatingly lonely.
So I moved back to San Diego. However, the “protective” armor I now used was in by way of keeping people at a distance – emotionally. Not too close! That’s far enough! I picked relationships that were long distance and which appeared to give me my “freedom”. I declined to say how I felt in a relationship, not telling my truth. I kept the gap wide and broad even though I was physically present. A good start to moving back into civilization, but obviously I had much more unlayering to do before I was ready for community.
Then 2 years ago I decided to leave the back country and move to Ohio – to a city. Holy smokes! However, the Universe is benevolent and gave me a home facing a wild preserve so that I could feel like I was in the country, although I am definitely in the midst of an urban setting. After awhile I could “see” that I was still isolating myself. All around me people were engaged in life, and I was spending most of my days either alone or in anonymity.
It’s been a herky jerky kind of motion re-entering community. The watching The Beaver, I put it together for myself. I write this because I know I’m not the only one who has tried isolation as a means of getting though life. It doesn’t work well for a being of Love.
It works for awhile, until you can sort out what is yours and what is theirs. It works when you really need to be alone with your own Voice. It does not work as a way of life. It’s unbalanced for beings who are Love, who are Source Energy and who came to play with each other on the planet, which is each and everyone of us.
So here’s what I recommend as a recovering Light Being isolationist :
1. Carve into your daily practice time to be alone with yourSelf. Make some part of each day your special quiet time with just You. Honor that and never give it up – for anyone. Perhaps it’s an hour in the morning or a couple of hours in the evening, but devote that time to You, for You, with You selfishly. If you’d done this in the first place, you’d never have had to choose isolation in the first place.
2. Find community. This is not as hard as you might think. It doesn’t mean settling for any consciousness that comes down the pike. It is rather consciously choosing to become engaged in something that you enjoy that get’s you out from in front of the television or the computer and into face to face real interactions. Maybe you work at Starbucks instead of alone at home. Perhaps you join a writers group, or a photography club, a book club, a bowling league. It doesn’t matter what you join, as long as it is SOMETHING YOU LOVE or it seems interesting or intriguing to you. It must feel Good. That’s the only guideline. Go!
3. As you choose friends and they you, be honest about who you are and what you’re up to. You have to be vulnerable. Tell these friends as far as you know about yourself..your dreams, hopes, aspirations and what you’re ‘working on’ within yourself. You tell them you’re enlisting cheerleaders for yourself. You don’t expect them to do your inner work for you; but they can lift you up, dust you off, and remind you of Who You Are and What You Are Up To when you forget. And of course, you must be up to doing the same for them.
4. Play with these people. By ‘play’ I mean exchange the flow of Source Energy with them, much like a game of catch. It takes a pitcher and a catcher to complete the equation of Love. These exchanges look like and sound like encouragement, great conversation, laughter, jokes, fun, affection, caring, kindness, and outright support as in, “I believe in you and I hold the space for you.” They are your spiritual community. They can be online; or they can be right next door as I found.
Years ago a friend gave me a little slogan which said, “People of the same family rarely grow up in the same household.”
That’s the funny thing about a spiritual path. You learn that Love is matter of the heart, a feeling place and it can be found anywhere – in your birth family, online clear across the globe or right in your neighborhood.
Oh, one more thing. Don’t try to make everyone you meet your “spiritual family”. Let the Law of Attraction bring them to you at just the right moment; but in the meantime, get out there and play with humanity and have fun. You do not have to be alone.
Go on now! Get out there and smile at someone! Take that first little step. It’s a new adventure in your continuing expansion. The real fun of it is that you never know what gift is right there in front of you until you see it.
lesson from Steve Jobs
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As you know Steve Jobs transitioned last week returning to Well Being. What a Light unto all of us and what a legacy he left to everyone willing to see. He was given up at birth. He never finished college. He became “successful” in the world by doing it his way, following his heart, loving what he did and never listening to others’ opinions that what he was up to might be impossible.
It really doesn’t matter what you’re up to creating in this world…a business, a family, a new idea….a gorgeous life…whatever it is, take Jobs’ words of wisdom and apply them into your life right now. Don’t give a rip what others have to say about your passion. Follow your heart where the Love is.
He “died” at age 56. A life truly Well Lived. Quality is what we’re all after; and Love brings the Quality to your endeavor. You feel that in your heart.
Thanks for reading! Kath
eliminate “is”; improve possibility thinking
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Recently I began a program of brain muscle exercises. The point? To start using the incredible power of my brain by focusing consciously in more effective ways, of course. Just like doing curls to build the biceps, we can do exercises to build the brain for greater skill, flexibility and possibility thinking.
Oddly the first exercise describes eliminating the use of the word “IS” from language to encourage the brain to search for other possibilities. The instructions outline doing this for one hour a day for the first week, 2 hours a day the second week, 3 hours a day the third week and 4 hours a day the fourth week. Additionally you can practice this new skill by writing as well as language. I’m finding it helpful to do both. You’ll notice that I am doing it in this post except for the word “is” in describing the exercise.
Eliminating the word “is” takes the “absolute” out of what “is”…and expands the mind into possibility thinking, sending it searching for “more”. I’ve only been doing this for a few days, but I can tell you that I am find it challenging.
For example, instead of saying, “The car is blue.”You might rephrase it and say, “The car appears blue in the daylight.”
When we refrain from assigning absolutes values to things, we use our conscious mind to reprogram the unconscious mind so it has to acknowledge that there are other possibilities. Our minds become more receptive to new ideas and ways of thinking. We become innovative, more flexible and engage our creativity.
I would love it if you would do this exercise along with me for a month. If you are game, you have to do the exercises daily as outline above which means you need to consciously pay attention to what you’re saying in a very focused manner during that time. I found it helpful to confide in others who seemed eager to join in the game.
On a neurological level we are encouraging new neuropathways (new habits of thought) and increased communications between the left and right brain. The right brain is conceptual; the left literal to over simplify. For a really wonderful story about what lies in store for us in the right brain, read Jill Bolte Taylor’s book, My Stroke of Insight.
One last item. Click here to read in greater depth the idea behind this exercise.
And if you haven’t heard Dr. Taylor’s talk at Ted.com…please enjoy it right now and be inspired. Your brain, your focus of Source Energy to be the Creator of your reality intentionally. Use it or loose it.
trusting your gut
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We as a society have been trained out of feeling. We haven’t been trained to understand how useful and important they are. Neither have we been properly school as to what to do with them when we’re having them and most importantly what they’re telling us. Emotions are the most important and useful navigation system we EACH HAVE. This, dear people, is how we are all created equal. We have equal access to Source Energy through our EMOTIONS. In the moment that you are feeling something unwanted and unpleasant to any degree, you have the opportunity to know right now what it is that you really do want. This is an unusual moment of clarity. What you do want is now perfectly clear and obvious.
Recently in working with my private coaching clients I have noticed that the primary work is getting folks to feel. Seems the campaign over the years has been to NOT FEEL – especially negative emotion. This is counter productive. You see if you devise ways to cut off feeling the negative emotions, you simultaneously cut off feeling the positive ones, too. Even worse, you’re cutting off access to your own Wisdom – your Inner Guidance System. You can’t trust your gut if you can’t feel it’s guidance.
You came in with your own Inner Guidance System – you are personally hard-wired into Source Energy, which by the way is the highest, fastest and purist frequency and always feels GOOD to you. It’s telling you that you’ve got your human mind in alignment with your Source Self; and when you’re in alignment, you are allowing every good thing and all Well Being. You’re alive and well in every sense and radiating that Well Being (personal power) out into the physical world. Not only that, everything you’ve ever wished for whether consciously in “prayer” or subconsciously in desires…is on it’s way to you.
Now, let’s understand what negative emotions are telling you: you’re NOT in alignment with Source. In relationship to the physical drama or situation that you’re experiencing in your physical life, it’s telling you that something’s not right. You must understand this very important distinction: this is a feeling in your gut, not a doubt in your mind. You cannot use your Internal Guidance System with your mind. It doesn’t operate in your mind. You experience your Inner Guidance System with your EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS. Thus, you must allow yourself to feel and open up that area of the solar plexus otherwise known as your
So every time you take measures to not feel something via medications, drugs, alcohol, or a practiced response to cutting off your feelings, you are denying yourself access to your IGS.
Relating the physical apparatus to your Source Self (because you are hard-wired in with your Internal Guidance System), it’s called a chakra.
Manipura: The Solar Plexus Chakra
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Manipura or manipurakais symbolised by a downward pointing triangle with ten petals. The seed syllable is Ram, and the presiding deity is Braddha Rudra, with Lakini as the Shakti.Manipura is related to the metabolic and digestive systems. Manipura is believed to correspond to Islets of Langerhans,[29] which are groups of cells in the pancreas, as well as the outer adrenal glands and the adrenal cortex. These play a valuable role in digestion, the conversion of food matter into energy for the body. The colour that corresponds to Manipura is yellow. Key issues governed by Manipura are issues of personal power, fear, anxiety, opinion-formation, introversion, and transition from simple or base emotions to complex. Physically, Manipura governs digestion, mentally it governs personal power, emotionally it governs expansiveness, and spiritually, all matters of growth.[30] |
You must open this area up and allow Light, Breath, Expansion and Source Energy to flow opening in this area. The best way to accomplish this is through breathing exercises. My favorite is in breath 3 counts and out breath 5 counts. Doing this is quieting the mind, allowing Source, relaxing and expanding for a minimum of 3-5 minutes; at least 5 times a day.
Don’t you find it interesting that Celiac’s Disease is on the rise, especially if you think of it terms of blocking the energy of Source from flowing freely through the Solar Plexus – the center of Light in the body? Open this center up and you can then trust your gut.
relaxing into well being (a story, part 1)
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Letting go of human mind is directly proportional to one’s ability to relax and Trust in Well Being. Life transformation is simple; I never said it was easy. If you, like me, have been working, working, working at having the life you want and find yourself exactly where you’ve always been, then it’s not that the Universe isn’t answering you, because it is. It is simply that we keep creating the same conditions over and over again like n the movie, Groundhog Day. Conclusion: there’s a persistent belief in the black box of human mind that dis-allows your relaxing into Well Being so you can realize what you want. Allow me to share my story with you…
I recently realized that this was the case with myself. So in Applied Spirituality theory, I’m supposed to “play”, “relax”, and “have fun”. Do I believe that’s right and natural? Check. That belief feels right to me, but then I spend 12 hours a day working with my face buried in the computer, writing articles and posts, learning the technology, studying myriad subjects but never really paying attention to HOW I FEEL when I’m doing all this. I just do it. So accustomed am I (habituated) to the work ethic: head-down and sacrifice now for the future. I couldn’t see my own forest for the trees until the negative feeling became so big that I could no longer miss it.
I experienced myself less enthusiastic, less eager, and really not accomplishing much. Yes, I still be worked 12 hours a day, but without results and admittedly not much fun. I wasn’t playing either outside work nor within the work. It had become dull and lifeless to me. Slowly I realized this. And when I finally did, it felt like a powerless place to me – dead end. Now what do I do?
The box my human mind had cornered me into was this: if I wasn’t working, then I felt guilty playing. Deeper than that, however, was another operating belief: amount of work=amount of my worth. Ye gads. So I was in a bind – you know, that proverbial rock and hardplace that I write about. There I was. My human mind blathering about I’m only valuable if I’m working hard and my Self telling me to play, play, play and enjoy my life and through that attitude of joy, everything I want would come. My human mind, naturally, was sneering that that proposition.
Yet, the observable evidence was irrefutable. Working hard without joy was getting me nowhere. I was NOT happy. Something had to change; and it wasn’t something in the physical world of doing, because I’d been “doing” a lot. I had to let go…of what? I had to change something, but what? I had to let go of my human mind belief that work=my value; but then my human mind kept saying that if I stop working so hard, then what? Where will the dollars come from? This was a Trust issue. Clearly a rubber meets the road Waterloo moment. Just me and Me. Which would I choose?
When I listened to ‘me’ I already knew the outcome because I was living that: unhappy, lifeless, and going nowhere fast. When I listened to “Me”, I wanted to believe that all my Good would come if I could relax into Well Being and play. I realized my resistance to going there was because I didn’t Trust. Oh boy! So clearly I knew the direction I wanted to go – I wanted to be enjoying my life and abundant. In order to do so, I would have to TRUST. My human mind wanted me to think it was either/or…my Big Self knew the Truth.
Visions of the old parable, the Grasshopper and the Ant came roaring back. More human mind programming. I was literally assailed by my human mind ego to warn me off from even considering what Me was proposing – go play. Whilst Me sat quietly and patiently awaiting my arrival, not trying to entice me, but waiting for me to allow It. My human mind suggested I work at deliberate creation processes. Work. Work. Work!!!! I did, for awhile, and then stopped. My knowing is that life is natural. The birds don’t work for their worms; my garden is growing outrageously without any efforting. The planet spins on its axis quite well, the sun comes up every single day without any effort. Then life, my life, should be effortless as well.
My pea brain was unrelenting…”Allow? ALLOW??? No Effort??? Are you NUTS? You can’t let up for a minute! You’ll go broke. You’ll be lost forever! Work! Work! Work. That’s the way. That’s the ticket. It’s the way it’s done’ it’s the way it’s always been done.”
And so it went for weeks…with me walking the line between them. Not really working; and not really allowing. The results…the same in the physical world. Not much progress; not falling backwards…just unsatisfying mediocrity. Yuck!
Clearly I had reached a personal place within me that was illuminating the next place I had to LET GO in order to move forward, to evolve and expand. I had to relax into Well Being. I had to Trust at a deeper level; and in order to do so…I had to let go. Oh arg, arg, arg! Have you ever seen a kid at the swimming pool up on the diving board for the first time? He wants to dive in or jump in, but he can’t…yet. The line of kids getting longer behind him as he is stuck between his desire and his fear. Yes, no, yes, no, yes, no……Well consider that a good picture of where I’ve been.
I’m telling you all this in the gory detail, because this is an example of how it happens within all of us. The bind. Leap into faith and trust (and be ruined according to the human mind) or stay the course and be miserable. When I could at last see the choice to be made clearly, it was fairly simple. I didn’t want to live a mediocre life. I never have and I never will. So that propelled me to consider: what it would take for me to relax and Trust into Well Being.
Every been here? Tell me your thoughts and experience. I’d love to hear from you!
to be continued…
ancient wisdom; modern ignorance
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A friend sent me the link to the movie of the Kogi people living in Norther Columbia in the Sierra Nevada.
I highly encourage you to view the entire video; it is a well spent 53 minutes. The Kogi have separated themselves from the rest of the world for over 1000 years, holding the space of Well Being. They have found their wisdom and knowledge by direct education from the Infinite Intelligence. Whilst they appear to use simplistic language, they have a very profound understanding of Energy – obviously understanding it much more clearly than we moderns do.
What they simply know that we have forgotten is our natural place within the Universe. They understand that everything was created in perfect harmony and with equal access to Source Energy – equal honored place within the scheme of everything. Everything important, equally and in balance. We, however, have forgotten that we are another species of creature on planet earth. We are no more or less as homo saepiens. We can be crushed by tornado, tsunami, fire, or quake just as the other creatures and plants. We can be in harmony with All That Is, or not…and alas, we are not because we have forgotten that we are natural creatures, too. We have forgotten that we have access to Infinite Intelligenc – that we are integral to the Plan. We are included in the Plan; we are contained within the Plan; and we are subject to It’s Laws. That which causes the sun to come up every morning; the planets to remain in their orbits; the food you eat to become new cells is the ground of Intelligence, the basis of Well Being that Is from the beginning. It is the matrix of Life.
Every time we kill a snake; smash an ant, or remove the autumn leaves without regard to the natural process, we interrupt the balance of Well Being. But Well Being, the Natural Order of things will prevail no matter what we do. We, as a species, will simply be burped off the planet unless we grow and change in harmony with Universal Laws.The Earth will continue; it is the failed species that will disappear unless we adapt.
If I could teach one thing, it would be to remind everyone of their natural and rightful place within the scheme of Life. You belong, you are included, you are natural creature just as the snake, frog and tree. You are cared for and loved beyond measure; it was set up that way from the beginning. Everything you fear has no basis; for Well Being is the basis of you, the basis of this world, the basis of this Universe. It was set up, wired up, connected perfectly from inception.
I would encourage you to go out into nature and reclaim your place within it in your own mind, within your own consciousness. As you study nature you will come to understand the perfection of everything and that there is a way to be within nature that is with ease. That way is first in your mind, letting go of all fear and coming to your Oneness with the elegance of All That Is. Once you understand this and have expanded your human mind into the Mind of All That Is, you will fear nothing again. You will understand that as the lily in the field, you are loved and cared for personally.
The words are not just words, they require an integrated understanding which your Soul already knows. This is the spiritual journey; this is the Ordinary Heroes Journey: dispelling your fears and becoming Who You Really Are in your modern physical life. We are charged with expanding our limited human mind consciousness into the Mind of God and living that Reality on earth. This is not religion; this is the spiritual journey of expanding the human mind into the consciousness of Well Being. It is Applied Spirituality.
It requires that each of us do the work individually. Get started now.
with malice towards none…even Osama bin Laden
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Let us be The Nation of Love
If we rejoice at the death of another human being, how is it that we are any different than those who celebrated in the streets on 9/11?
A few days have passed since the death of Osama bin Laden, an event that came back to back with the Royal Wedding. The Wedding captivated us with Love, and we knew this because it felt Good and Life affirming. The report of bin Laden’s death did not feel good or life affirming. I’ve watched news accounts, read of the reactions of the American people. I’ve come to the conclusion that we are missing the point and a great opportunity. Abraham Lincoln would be disappointed.
“With malice toward none, with charity for all, …let us strive on to finish the work we are in, …to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves and with all nations.”
Abraham Lincoln, Second Inaugural Address, Mar. 4, 1865 16th president of US (1809 – 1865)
The Law of Attraction exactly matches like-minded people, bringing them together in elegant ways. Such was 9/11. For the past 10 years we have been embroiled in the “war on terrorism” locked in combat by matching thoughts of hatred and fear. We are missing the opportunity to take the Ordinary Heroes Journey, which is the spiritual journey.
Frequently I am asked how “spirituality” has any relevance to everyday, real life like business, politics, or war. The answer is always the same, every creation on Earth is a spiritual event, for we are the focusers of Source Energy. Source Energy, the Field of Awareness, the Christed Consciousness, Infinite Intelligence, the Field of All Potential is the field of Energy from which we create. It is the same Energy that creates worlds. We draw that energy through us and what we focus It on, is what we create here on Earth.
We say that we are a Christian nation whose foundations are in the teaching of Jesus whose entire message was Love. Period. So we are charged with not to worship him, but rather to become more Love right here in this physical life. The spiritual journey, which is the Ordinary Heroes Journey, is to become the Love that we are by answering the Call to Adventure. The Spiritual Adventure is about clearing out the human ego mind, the black box of false beliefs, limiting perceptions and biases that we focus Source Energy through. Without doing the personal development work of the spiritual journey, no spiritual growth happens and we mis-create. This is how we create aberrations such as war, disease, poverty and all things that don’t feel Good, which are without Life. Without Life is what we call evil: the absence of Love.
Every spiritual journey is about clearing out your black box so that you can be more Life, more God, if you will, in your everyday human life. Every religion ought to be about that as well.
Osama bin Laden was a man who did not take the spiritual journey by answering the Hero’s Journey Call to Adventure. However, he gave us the greatest gift: the contrast. Would you like to be like him or not? In the face of something we do not like or love, the toughest question anyone can ask is, How am I like him? Without this self reflection there is no spiritual growth, and the Call to Adventure has been refused, the opportunity missed. The world doesn’t change except that each one of us answers the Call to Adventure and goes on the spiritual journey to be the Love that we are in our ordinary human lives.
Osama bin Laden refused the call of personal development and spiritual growth but gave us the opportunity to change and transform ourselves by his presence on the planet. Will you refuse the Call to Adventure? Or will you heed the call and take the Ordinary Heroes Journey and become more Love?
With malice towards none and charity for all…these are not empty words, nor is it impossible. We have a great opportunity to become More than what we have been. It is not a national movement, but it is a personal opportunity from which America The Nation of Love will spring forth. I hold that space.
If you would like to take that Ordinary Heroes Journey, begin right now. Go sign up for the Free Online Course delivered in 52 weekly messages at Applied Spirituality.com.
Thanks for reading,
Kath
the ordinary hero’s journey of parenting
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Children Are Wise Giant Spirit in Small Bodies
What would it look like to be on your own Hero’s Journey and also be a good parent? It is the quintessential job of leadership by example. Children know when your actions aren’t matching your words or your vibration (thoughts, beliefs and intentions). They have really accurate Internal Guidance System; and this is what messes them up – your vibration gap.
You’ve all heard the phrase, “Don’t Do as I Do; Do As I Say?” or How about this one, “Because I’m your Mother/Father, and I say so.” Well, that’s the old parenting paradigm. These are the old dictatorial and unconscious parenting style. In other words, the parent doesn’t have to be held accountable for being in alignment and congruent with him/herself…but the kid is held to a higher standard for the parent.
Recently I did a radio interview on Unity.fm. It is a “conscious parenting” show where they endeavor to raise the children with awareness and intentionality. You can listen here
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In this time of awakening, this is the perfect moment or situation where the parent gets to ask himself, “what would I need to shift or change in order to become congruent with mySelf?” For example if the parent is telling the child to turn off the television and go do his homework, and the child says, “Why do you get to watch television?” This is the moment where the conscious parent would stop and reflect, “Just why am I watching television or surfing the net or watching videos online?”
In the Hero’s Journey we are always confronted with the opportunity to do things differently by growing ourselves into the person we want our children to become. In this instance the assumption is that the parent wants the child to be well educated, self determining and self motivating in good, productive ways. Is it too late for the parent to shift? Of course not. This is the Hero’s Journey where the parent then reflects on the deeper issues involved in the child’s question as it pertains to her. Our Ordinary Hero stops and reflects: Why am I doing this? What (if anything) am I avoiding? What would I rather be doing that would serve me? Gee, I haven’t read a book in years. I would love to get back to my watercolors. I haven’t written in my journal for quite awhile.
The Hero Parent uses the information for their own personal growth and personal development, thus modeling to the child the ability and willingness to continue to expand and evolve personally. This is an example of conscious parenting; seeing the child as unique, valid being capable of reflecting back to you wise information if you have the eyes to see and the ears to hear. Knowing that just because you’re “grown up” and they are not, doesn’t mean you have all the answers and that they could very possibly have a clearer insight than you do.
When my elder son was a little guy, generally he was a very happy contented child. Very quickly I realized that the only time he ever cried was when I was out of alignment: I had shouted at him or misjudged a situation or was being unjust. In those very humbling moments I had the opportunity to “wake up”, get back into alignment with mySelf and do it over. I could breathe, apologize and open my heart back to Love. I could then reflect on why I got so upset. What did I think that meant? What could I let go of that closed my heart with fear?
The Ordinary Heroes’ Journey is everyday and every moment with whomever is in front of you at the moment – including your children.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
PS I will be doing a return interview on Unity Family Matters on May 12, 2011.
