conscious parenting

Hello Everyone!

There are as many ideas of good parenting out there as there are individuals. Just ask anyone and a rousing if not noisy discussion will ensue with everyone defending their view point from the human mind. Recently quite a polarizing discussion ensued with Amy Chua’s book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. The book is not a user’s manual, but rather a personal reflection of her journey on her parenting style from which she learns and grows in Love. This is conscious parenting which results in the evolution and expansion of you, the parent. What this means is that as things come up you, the parent, have to grow yourself through the course of parenting. Children, because we love them so much, cause us to self reflect, reconsider, change and grow.  Nothing else in the world can make us do this quite like our children can and do.

We want so much to be good parents; however, there’s no manual and it seems almost anyyone can do it. There’s very little barrier to entry! This is the field of Love. It gets muddy, however, when we bring to bear our human mind stuff onto the field. Our parents did it this way; or I hated that my parents did it that way; or I’m not enough, deserving or up to the job. These are the stories of human mind (ego) that will come up for OUR clearing throughout the course of parenting our children.

Bottomline: these children are NOT our property, nor are they made in our image. They are individual, unique chips off the old Block, Source Energy.  They come complete with their own Internal Guidance System. Their agenda is not our agenda. Our job, if we are consciously parenting, is to keep reconnecting them with their own Internal Guidance so that they feel safe and good in their own hands. During childhood we can offer them a wide berth to practice listening within and then feeling the outcome of their individual choices. Then, once they’re “out in the world”, it will be their natural habit to “check within” first to see how anything feels to them before they act. This builds not only self esteem but self reliance, independent thinkers and adults who are Connected with Self.

I thought you might enjoy listening to Amy Chou being interviewed. It doesn’t matter that she’s Chinese; substitute any other descriptor you like here. Everyone is called to grow and expand in Love: and nothing does it better than our children.

Thanks for reading!

Kath