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Hello Everyone,
I’ve never done this before, published a guest author to my blog. But somehow this seemed right. Eric Marley is a man who is moving through his own life transformation – beautifully, I might add. After 40 some years as  Mormon, he left the church to explore his own spirituality and his relationship with himSelf. I have interviewed him on my blogtalkradio show once and have scheduled 3 more episodes. He wrote this story a full two years ahead of deciding to leave the church. Eric is a clear example of an Ordinary Hero on his Ordinary Heroes Journey. Enjoy!  Oh, and we’d love to hear your comments!  Kath


Geoff’s Station

By Eric Marley

The sun beat translucent light into the room where Geoff still slept, snoring. How long he had been there was anyone’s guess,but since he had arrived he had done nothing but sleep; sound, solemn, deep sleep.  

Time passed, and he finally stirred.

“Ah,” he said as he stretched his back. He blinked his eyes and a weary smile crept across his face.  The smile faded almost as quickly as it had started and his eyes closed and his breathing deepened once again.

Later, Geoff’s eyes sprung open, as if he had been jabbed in the backside. He did not move, but lay there in his bed.

“Oh, I wish I could go back to sleep,” he thought to himself in his groggy mind.

Just the memory of the rest he had just experienced brought a dimming smile to his face. But Geoff could not now go back to
sleep; he was certainly awake. He shifted back and forth in his bed, but it was as if it had grown too small for him. His covers
were apparently tucked in too tightly in the edges, and he swore softly as he struggled to be free of their suffocating embrace. 

“Come on…what the…” as he struggled to get one of his arms free, which he couldn’t do. 

Geoff stopped struggling for a moment, panting. The covers held him tightly as before. Feelings of claustrophobia swept over him,
but he batted them away.

Geoff looked up to the ceiling, which seemed now much closer than it should be. It showed a steady dim glow from no source in particular. It was as if the whole room was made of thick paper. Oddly, no point of the room was brighter or darker than the other. Also, he noticed, the covers on his bed were the same color as the walls. The room was monochromatic. 

“Some decorator,” Geoff thought to himself. “At least the bed is comfortable. Or was,” he thought wistfully. 

Geoff tried a half-dozen more times to free an arm, either arm, from the bed’s grip with the same result. He lay back in bed,
resigned for the moment, panting. His mind raced. He felt bound and he began to panic. This time he was unable to brush is
feelings away.

“This must be what it’s like to be in a straitjacket! I have to get out of here. This is too much. I can’t handle this any more!”

He had an idea.  He would bang his head on the ceiling, which was right in front of his face. He couldn’t move his arms, but his head and neck were free enough. He could move his neck, flex it backwards as far as the bed would allow, and then fling it upwards to bounce his forehead off the ceiling, which seemed to be getting lower all the time.  This he did. The result, at first, was familiar. However, as he was in the act of flinging his head upwards with his might, to his surprise, his right arm broke loose of the covers.

His struggles against the ceiling ceased for the moment as he concentrated on freeing his right arm, which he did.

A look of relief spread over his face. He now felt he could get more leverage. Alas, he was wrong.  The room was so tight against him now that he could not get his arm up in front of his face in such a way as to be able to push with very much force.

“Ah!” he yelled, and banged his head with all his might against the ceiling.

To his terror, a crack appeared. It wasn’t the fact that there was a crack in the ceiling that caused the terror. It was the light that came in which was hard and blinding.  Although he had been breathing hard from the anxiety and exertion of the situation, he now held his breath as he closed his eyes tight. But the light seemed bright even through his eyelids. After a while, when the surprise and pain of the light subsided, he was able to think clearly and look at the crack through squinted eyes. He could see nothing beyond the fissure; the light that came in prevented it.

Geoff lay in his bed, breathing almost normally once again. The light beat down into his eyes and onto his forehead, maddeningly. A small bead of sweat started at his hairline and coursed into one of his squinted eyes, stinging. Geoff fought off another wave of panic, but his conclusion was the same.

“I have to get out of here,” he thought, “Why would this happen to me? What did I do?” He had these thoughts even though he was afraid of the light, as bright as it was.  He had never experienced anything so bright. In the end, however, his fear of staying in the tight bed and room overcame his fear of any light. He resolved to get out of there, no matter what.

With that, he made another frantic push with his head against the ceiling. To his surprise, his whole face stuck up through the
ceiling, framed.

“What in the world?”

The fact that his head was held up in the ceiling gave his right arm just enough room from below his body and he gave a
tremendous shove against the ceiling, which tore away a large chunk of it. His head, right arm and shoulder were now out of the confining space. His arm held him up as he surveyed his surroundings, his eyes adjusting for the first time. He could feel his left arm free the last of it’s restraint from below, helping to support him.

Geoff couldn’t believe what he saw. As monochromatic as his room had been, this world was not. Colors he could not believe or even comprehend existed massaged his senses.  He stared, gape-mouthed, at his surroundings. 

“I can’t believe I ever wanted to go back to sleep!” he exclaimed joyously.  “I’ll never sleep again!”

Green grass, white-tipped mountains, blue sky, brown soil, dark woods and an azure ocean were all within Geoff’s line of sight.
He took a deep breath of the warm air and smelled ripe fruit mixed with an oceanic breeze, welling up to the top of the hill
where he was. He was home.

His gestation now complete, Geoff smiled broadly and with a final, mighty shove pushed away the outer shell of the egg,
freeing himself completely.

–Eric T. Marley

February 2006
Copyright 2006 Eric Marley. All Rights Reserved.

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Hello Everyone,

This is such a fabulous time where philosophy and religion are coming
together with the science.I just keep getting supported by my science friends.
Last week Nassim Haramein, a physicist and today a video interview with
Dr. Joe Dispenzsa.You might remember him from the film, What the Bleep Do We Know

I wanted to share this video with you, to give you a clearer idea of the changes
that are happening; what you are attempting when you do your inner work and
become a master of your thoughts. (And if you haven’t gotten started, now’s the time.
The Earthling’s Quick Start Guide is the place to start with it’s online course.)

Tell me how you’re doing with the course and where you need help. I’ve got a ton
of techniques to get you moving, unstuck and moving forward to the life you imagine.

Watch the movie

love, Kath

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Jun
22

relaxing into well being (a story, part 1)

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Hello Everyone,

Letting go of human mind is directly proportional to one’s ability to relax and Trust in Well Being.  Life transformation is simple; I never said it was easy. If you, like me, have been working, working, working at having the life you want and find yourself exactly where you’ve always been, then it’s not that the Universe isn’t answering you, because it is. It is simply that we keep creating the same conditions over and over again like n the movie, Groundhog Day. Conclusion: there’s a persistent belief in the black box of human mind that dis-allows your relaxing into Well Being so you can realize what you want. Allow me to share my story with you…

I recently realized that this was the case with myself. So in Applied Spirituality theory,  I’m supposed to “play”, “relax”, and “have fun”. Do I believe that’s right and natural?  Check. That belief feels right to me, but then I spend 12 hours a day working with my face buried in the computer, writing articles and posts, learning the technology, studying myriad subjects but never really paying attention to HOW I FEEL when I’m doing all this. I just do it. So accustomed am I (habituated) to the work ethic: head-down and sacrifice now for the future. I couldn’t see my own forest for the trees until the negative feeling became so big that I could no longer miss it.

I experienced myself less enthusiastic, less eager, and really not accomplishing much. Yes, I still be worked 12 hours a day, but without results and admittedly not much fun. I wasn’t playing either outside work nor within the work. It had become dull and lifeless to me. Slowly I realized this. And when I finally did, it felt like a powerless place to me – dead end. Now what do I do?

The box my human mind had cornered me into was this: if I wasn’t working, then I felt guilty playing. Deeper than that, however, was another operating belief: amount of work=amount of my worth. Ye gads. So I was in a bind – you know, that proverbial rock and hardplace that I write about. There I was. My human mind blathering about I’m only valuable if I’m working hard and my Self telling me to play, play, play and enjoy my life and through that attitude of joy, everything I want would come. My human mind, naturally, was sneering that that proposition.

Yet, the observable evidence was irrefutable. Working hard without joy was getting me nowhere. I was NOT happy. Something had to change; and it wasn’t something in the physical world of doing, because I’d been “doing” a lot. I had to let go…of what? I had to change something, but what? I had to let go of my human mind belief that work=my value; but then my human mind kept saying that if I stop working so hard, then what? Where will the dollars come from? This was a Trust issue. Clearly a rubber meets the road Waterloo moment. Just me and Me. Which would I choose?

When I listened to ‘me’ I already knew the outcome because I was living that: unhappy, lifeless, and going nowhere fast. When I listened to “Me”, I wanted to believe that all my Good would come if I could relax into Well Being and play. I realized my resistance to going there was because I didn’t Trust. Oh boy! So clearly I knew the direction I wanted to go – I wanted to be enjoying my life and abundant. In order to do so, I would have to TRUST. My human mind wanted me to think it was either/or…my Big Self knew the Truth.

Visions of the old parable, the Grasshopper and the Ant came roaring back. More human mind programming. I was literally assailed by my human mind ego to warn me off from even considering what Me was proposing – go play.  Whilst Me sat quietly and patiently awaiting my arrival, not trying to entice me, but waiting for me to allow It. My human mind suggested I work at deliberate creation processes. Work. Work. Work!!!! I did, for awhile, and then stopped. My knowing is that life is natural. The birds don’t work for their worms; my garden is growing outrageously without any efforting. The planet spins on its axis quite well, the sun comes up every single day without any effort. Then life, my life, should be effortless as well.

My pea brain was unrelenting…”Allow? ALLOW??? No Effort??? Are you NUTS? You can’t let up for a minute! You’ll go broke. You’ll be lost forever! Work! Work! Work. That’s the way. That’s the ticket. It’s the way it’s done’ it’s the way it’s always been done.”
And so it went for weeks…with me walking the line between them. Not really working; and not really allowing. The results…the same in the physical world. Not much progress; not falling backwards…just unsatisfying mediocrity. Yuck!

Clearly I had reached a personal place within me that was illuminating the next place I had to LET GO in order to move forward, to evolve and expand.  I had to relax into Well Being. I had to Trust at a deeper level; and in order to do so…I had to let go. Oh arg, arg, arg! Have you ever seen a kid at the swimming pool up on the diving board for the first time? He wants to dive in or jump in, but he can’t…yet. The line of kids getting longer behind him as he is stuck between his desire and his fear. Yes, no, yes, no, yes, no……Well consider that a good picture of where I’ve been.

I’m telling you all this in the gory detail, because this is an example of how it happens within all of us. The bind. Leap into faith and trust (and be ruined according to the human mind) or stay the course and be miserable. When I could at last see the choice to be made clearly, it was fairly simple. I didn’t want to live a mediocre life. I never have and I never will. So that propelled me to consider: what it would take for me to relax and Trust into Well Being.

Every been here? Tell me your thoughts and experience. I’d love to hear from you!

to be continued…

Apr
26

the ordinary hero’s journey of parenting

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Good Morning Everyone,

Children Are Wise Giant Spirit in Small Bodies

What would it look like to be on your own Hero’s Journey and also be a good parent? It is the quintessential job of leadership by example. Children know when your actions aren’t matching your words or your vibration (thoughts, beliefs and intentions). They have really accurate Internal Guidance System; and this is what messes them up – your vibration gap.

You’ve all heard the phrase, “Don’t Do as I Do; Do As I Say?” or How about this one, “Because I’m your Mother/Father, and I say so.” Well, that’s the old parenting paradigm. These are the old dictatorial and unconscious parenting style. In other words, the parent doesn’t have to be held accountable for being in alignment and congruent with him/herself…but the kid is held to a higher standard for the parent.

Recently I did a radio interview on Unity.fm.  It is a “conscious parenting” show where they endeavor to raise the children with awareness and intentionality. You can listen here

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In this time of awakening, this is the perfect moment or situation where the parent gets to ask himself, “what would I need to shift or change in order to become congruent with mySelf?” For example if the parent is telling the child to turn off the television and go do his homework, and the child says, “Why do you get to watch television?” This is the moment where the conscious parent would stop and reflect, “Just why am I watching television or surfing the net or watching videos online?”

In the Hero’s Journey we are always confronted with the opportunity to do things differently by growing ourselves into the person we want our children to become. In this instance the assumption is that the parent wants the child to be well educated, self determining and self motivating in good, productive ways. Is it too late for the parent to shift? Of course not. This is the Hero’s Journey where the parent then reflects on the deeper issues involved in the child’s question as it pertains to her. Our Ordinary Hero stops and reflects: Why am I doing this? What (if anything) am I avoiding? What would I rather be doing that would serve me? Gee, I haven’t read a book in years. I would love to get back to my watercolors. I haven’t written in my journal for quite awhile.

The Hero Parent uses the information for their own personal growth and personal development, thus modeling to the child the ability and willingness to continue to expand and evolve personally. This is an example of conscious parenting; seeing the child as unique, valid being capable of reflecting back to you wise information if you have the eyes to see and the ears to hear. Knowing that just because you’re “grown up” and they are not, doesn’t mean you have all the answers and that they could very possibly have a clearer insight than you do.

When my elder son was a little guy, generally he was a very happy contented child. Very quickly I realized that the only time he ever cried was when I was out of alignment: I had shouted at him or misjudged a situation or was being unjust. In those very humbling moments I had the opportunity to “wake up”, get back into alignment with mySelf and do it over. I could breathe, apologize and open my heart back to Love. I could then reflect on why I got so upset. What did I think that meant? What could I let go of that closed my heart with fear?

The Ordinary Heroes’ Journey is everyday and every moment with whomever is in front of you at the moment – including your children.

Thanks for reading!

Kath

PS I will be doing a return interview on Unity Family Matters on May 12, 2011.

Apr
05

Twitter Updates for 2010-04-05

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04

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