Archive for self esteem
looking for love in all the wrong places?
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What’s love got to do with…money, relationships, health, your experience of life? Everything. Anything or anyone who feels unloved isn’t presenting in the world in a nice way. In fact, evil is simply the absence of love. Illness is the absence of Love. Poverty is the absence of love. Why? Because Love is Source Energy, the Fullness of all that is Good, which is the True Self of all of us.
We all have “stories” about our lives. My folks didn’t love me; my spouse abused me; my family didn’t do this or that…and we carry these stories around like badges, recreating them over and over again…living the same experiences over and over again with different faces; but it’s the same old story. I didn’t get enough Love. In every act of everyday we are trying to “get” more Love. What’s weird about that is that we ARE Love and the place where we aren’t getting enough love is from our Self. We are Love; yet, we don’t know it; we don’t realize it, therefore we don’t have the EXPERIENCE OF IT, because we keep playing the same old tunes repeatedly searching for Love in all the wrong places: out there when it’s in here.
There is nothing you cannot let go of if you know how to “drop it”. You want a better relationship here and now, stop telling the story of how “unloved” you were as a kid. You want more Quality Life experiences right here and now; then stop telling the stories of your miserable low quality experiences back when. It’s history. It’s long gone. It was never Real; merely real.
Most of all, start loving yourself. Gather together all those unloved parts of you and bring them into your fold. They are like long lost children waiting to be heard, loved and honored in your inner world. When your mind is racing negative thoughts of doom and gloom, it’s those unloved, unrecognized and abandoned parts of you that are clamoring to be LOVED. And here’s the really Good News: once you love them, their stories dissolve. There is nothing on Earth that more Love won’t fix or cure. Nothing. For Love is the stuff, the glue, the common denominator of us all.
Love yourself first; then watch everything in your personal experience change.
Applied Spirituality offers a self-study audio course that will guide you back home to yourSelf where Love is right here, right now; it’s called You Are Enough...and you already Are.
Enjoy the song, Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places and imagine that the song is about you finding You.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
conscious parenting
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There are as many ideas of good parenting out there as there are individuals. Just ask anyone and a rousing if not noisy discussion will ensue with everyone defending their view point from the human mind. Recently quite a polarizing discussion ensued with Amy Chua’s book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. The book is not a user’s manual, but rather a personal reflection of her journey on her parenting style from which she learns and grows in Love. This is conscious parenting which results in the evolution and expansion of you, the parent. What this means is that as things come up you, the parent, have to grow yourself through the course of parenting. Children, because we love them so much, cause us to self reflect, reconsider, change and grow. Nothing else in the world can make us do this quite like our children can and do.
We want so much to be good parents; however, there’s no manual and it seems almost anyyone can do it. There’s very little barrier to entry! This is the field of Love. It gets muddy, however, when we bring to bear our human mind stuff onto the field. Our parents did it this way; or I hated that my parents did it that way; or I’m not enough, deserving or up to the job. These are the stories of human mind (ego) that will come up for OUR clearing throughout the course of parenting our children.
Bottomline: these children are NOT our property, nor are they made in our image. They are individual, unique chips off the old Block, Source Energy. They come complete with their own Internal Guidance System. Their agenda is not our agenda. Our job, if we are consciously parenting, is to keep reconnecting them with their own Internal Guidance so that they feel safe and good in their own hands. During childhood we can offer them a wide berth to practice listening within and then feeling the outcome of their individual choices. Then, once they’re “out in the world”, it will be their natural habit to “check within” first to see how anything feels to them before they act. This builds not only self esteem but self reliance, independent thinkers and adults who are Connected with Self.
I thought you might enjoy listening to Amy Chou being interviewed. It doesn’t matter that she’s Chinese; substitute any other descriptor you like here. Everyone is called to grow and expand in Love: and nothing does it better than our children.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
self esteem: the measure of love and respect for yourself
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We are told to “Love yourself!” I know when I first heard this I was kind of confused. Didn’t everyone just automatically love oneself? Evidently not. Seems we carry the baggage of others’ opinions around…often unknowingly. The only way we know this is when the confidence that is required to do something just isn’t there. Being “shy” is one manifestation. Other examples might be someone who is overly boastful using a false bravado to compensate for a lack of confidence. And there’s more, of course. You don’t want to get into your bathing suit and play at the beach; or you won’t stand up for yourself when required; or there’s a voice in the back of your mind constantly saying, “you’re not enough…smart enough, pretty enough, educated enough, rich enough, etc.
When we don’t appreciate who we are, value our worth or appreciate our uniqueness, the tragedy is a life unfulfilled and a world that goes without our unique gifts and talents, because we don’t have the ability to bring them to the world. We live small. We hide. We never seem to get what we want.
Having the requisite love and appreciation for oneself results in a fulfilled life. We don’t “take” from others, we stand in who we are radiating our beautiful Self out to the world, and by Law of Attraction we are matched with the lovely things we deserve. It’s not aggression; it’s magnetism like a Light House standing firm and steady on the shore so that all the boats can easily and clearly find it. The ability to shine clearly is self esteem.
We are so much more than we think we are! At the core, we are Source Energy having a physical experience. In human terms we are gorgeous just as we are, despite what your human mind has to say on the subject. Each of us is a chip off the same Old Block, and have the same core of Source Energy, Well Being.
This is the time in the course of human history when we are awakening to Who We Really Are. Isn’t it time you stopped resisting and let go of the false ideas your human mind would have you believe about you? What’s stopping you? Do you think the process has to be painful or scary? It doesn’t. Do you think this is going to take a long time and divert you from your “real life”. It doesn’t have to. Do you feel lost and don’t know where to begin? Well, start here. It’s a fun journey and when guided by someone who’s been there, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. It’s a natural process of … letting go.
Join us in a workshop this evening, February 9, 2011 and then a 4 week seminar in Falling in Love with Yourself: You are Enough. You can only benefit, there is absolutely no downside to this; and the benefits are infinite.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
essential Self: Conscious Awareness
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At the root of every personal dilemma is the belief that we are isolated, alone, ineffectual and small. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are, each of us, Well Being, Perfection, Conscious Awareness. The Life that breathes us, enlivens us and every living thing. We are immense, but have suffered from the false belief in our separation from Source.
Jesus said, “I and my Father are One.” This was his statement of his realization of Oneness. We are each the same; one with the I AM.
“I AM is the Way, the Truth and the Life.”
The I AM is the Sea of Conscious Awareness in which we live, breathe and ARE. Notice. Who breathes you? What knows how to turn your food into new cells? What keeps the planets in their orbits? What? The same Conscious Awareness that is us; that is Who We Really Are.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said it this way: Trust Thyself; It is the I AM.
Thanks for reading,
Kath
The Economics of Self Esteem
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I spend a lot of time noticing people, behavior, money and time. In ‘this economy’ It’s the catch phrase these days, so I have to use it for Googling purposes. But people seem to be working harder and faster, taking on more and more with a sense of desperation.
Perhaps they’re fueled by the idea that the unemployment benefits are going to run out; or they have to find that job, right now; or I’ve only got a certain amount of severance, so I’ve got to launch this business pronto. Always we are thinking there’s not enough – for me.
It’s precisely thinking like this that got us into this recession in the first place. No where else on Earth, save the UK, maybe, do people work so hard and so long for so little. It defies logic and common sense. I wonder how much we make per hour as a nation. Now there’s a question. If we added up the earnings of everyone in the US, then added up the hours worked and divided that into the earnings, what would we be making per hour? I can assure you it would be a pittance compared to our True Value.
This of course doesn’t even take into account the “j” factor – you know, J.O.Y. Now, let’s ask that question: how many of us really LOVE what we’re doing? Preposterous!
We’ve got it all backwards, because we think the harder we work the more money we will make.
Forget the penalty in stress paid by the body. We work for those benefits, after all. We stick at jobs we hate, damaging our physicality so we can cash in on those benefits when we have that stroke, the heart attack or get the big “C” – which by the way we wouldn’t have if we’d spent our days in joy.
How the heck did we get here?
I’d like to say it was a big conspiracy, but we all went along willingly like lambs to slaughter buying into the “American Dream” that the marketers were selling on behalf of the Banks, the HMO’s, the insurance companies, and the pharmaceuticals.
They package it up real pretty and sell it; we buy it lock, stock and barrel. We should have that McMansion, those cars, these clothes, this gadget and that particular widget. Then we’ll feel like we’ve made it; we’ve arrived – then there will be material proof that we’re good enough – at last.
Hamsters on the wheel, we are. Hamsters on the wheel.
What fuels this? Why could they sell us this crock?
We have a national deficit, but it’s not cash. It is a national deficit of personal and individual self-esteem.
We are poor in Spirit. We are poor in Who We Really Are. We don’t know our own value, our own worth, and we do not trust our own internal thought processes as valid. We don’t think for ourselves, we don’t question the premise, and we think they know more than we do.
In the old days, I think they called it Common Sense. Today, we’ve all but abdicated our personal sense of what’s a right and appropriate response to life. We trust ‘them’ to tell us what to watch on TV, what to wear, what to eat, what drugs to ask for at the doctor’s, what symptoms to have, what beauty is, what to think about the ‘news’, and we do it it all. We follow so well.
Nothing will change until we remember and value above all else, Who We Really Are – individually – you and me.
When we truly trust our responses to life as right and appropriate; when we value ourselves, our opinions, our time, our talents, our very being as the precious and beautifully unique thing that it is – then, folks, the economy of our nation will thrive, because we individually are thriving.
Only we can do this. Only you and I can begin the transformation of poor self esteem into one of personal high regard and respect. This is our job.
Then, one day, in the midst of our work day, we will stop at least once and say, “I cannot believe they pay me to do this! I love my work.”
Imagine this.
Thanks for reading!
Kath
High Self Esteem: Knowing Who You Really Are
Posted by: | Comments2008-06-11
Good Day Everyone,
This week the theme seemed to come up repeatedly as “self esteem” or “self value” or “self appreciation” or “self worth”.
Any of these terms ring true for you?
The first time it came up was in a class that I was taking via teleconference. A lady was sharing that she was “selfish” and confessing that as if it were a horrible thing. A gentlemen chimed in that he, too, was a “selfish prick”. Whooa! Wait a minute! Wait just one minute!
When and where did “selfish” get such a rap? I’m thinking it has to do with religion and wanting to get the masses to do what was expected. So, therefore, let’s give “selfish” a really bad moral rap, then they’ll be more pliable if they’re in fear of their mortal souls. Arg!
I like to take words apart and find a true meaning in them. If I do this with the word “selfish”, I come up with self and fish. Fishing for self, and morphing that into fishing for Self. Now I know what the word really means and where it focuses me internally: searching within for the Me of me – my own Godchip. My True Voice. My True Godself.
Well, we wouldn’t want those masses finding out how powerful they really are, so no wonder they made the word selfish “bad”. A virtual sin. I’d best leave anymore remarks about that and move on right here.
One of the really interesting benefits of being “selfish”, is that when you are following that internal path, you learn what makes you tick, what makes you feel good, what blows your skirt up, what makes you joyful, and fulfilled. These emotional tracers of feeling good are all street signs on the path of selfish – fishing for and finding your True Self. These thing make you happy, by Jove! These are the things that connect you to Source and show you that you can make yourself happy.
Now when you’re feeling good, and filling up your own basket with joyous events, situations, activities and focus points, guess what happens? Your cup runneth over. You are so full of Source (joy, love, energy, creation itself) that it flows out of you in every thought, word and deed. Then and only then are you a blessing to others and effortlessly “give” from your overflowing cup.
When you are overflowing your cup of love and blessings (energy) to everyone and everything around you: your co workers, your family, your friends, the book you’re writing, the project you are focused on – you are flowing It – Source Itslef right smack into your creations, which benefit and bless over and over again. In that moment when you can see and realize that by You being You, doing what makes you tick blesses people, there is the real value of You. A Value Beyond Measure – you being fully Who You Are, which is what you love to be – uniquely YOU. This is applied spirituality in action.
When you feel this “Zone”, you feel your self esteem, self worth, self value, and self love and self-appreciation. When you know Who You Really Are, there is only Self Esteem. For how could it be otherwise?
The hallmark of a spiritual journey is fraught with irony and paradox because it is mirroring the 180 polarity of human mind and Godmind. So, being selfish (finding your True Self) is the path to Self Esteem – your Godchip, usually in juxtaposition to the conditioned human mind. Who would have thought?
Thus the path to Self development is following your heart, following the daily moment to moment decisions that feel good to You, being with the folks that feel right to you, participating in the activities that feel enlivening to You, is the way you find and connect, then blend with your True Self and let It rip! When you let IT rip, you feel You flooding through you, creating your dreams, words, creations. When you’re feeling You flowing through you, there is only Self Love.
Thanks for Reading!
Kath